1. Personal devotions are still important when
you’re married . . . maybe even more
I love reading the Bible with Ben! Since we’re coming at the
Scriptures from different perspectives, experiences, and upbringings, we often
walk away from our times in the Word with a more rounded understanding and
insight into what we read because of each other’s input. However, nothing can
take the place of one-on-one time with the Lord. As much as I am blessed by the
friendship of my husband, it wouldn’t be right for me to expect him to provide
things that only the Lord can. I am responsible to grow on my own in the
Lord, only now, my relationship with Him more heavily impacts someone else – my
spouse. I am Ben’s closest friend and confidant, and can therefore inadvertently cause the most damage or be his
wisest counselor, depending on my sensitivity to the Holy Spirit. I am more
aware now of the need to stay in tune with the Lord, not just for my sake, but
for others as well.
2. Gratitude is a (rewarding) choice
. . . And I believe it’s the best and most rewarding choice
a wife can make!! I know being grateful may seem an easier quality for a young
bride to have, but I have purposed in my heart to build positive habits at the
front end of my marriage, and one of those is to be grateful. :) Gratitude doesn’t mean
you are blind to the fact that things may be less than perfect, it means you
have made the CHOICE to focus on the positive, and can daily delight in the ways
that you have been blessed by the Lord. Honestly, the more I am thankful for
the things Ben does for me, the quicker I pick up on those things next time
around, because I am subconsciously training my eye to notice them.
3. Contentment will bless your husband . . . and
you as well
I put this point after the one on gratitude because I
believe it is the fruit of a grateful heart. Busy your heart being grateful for
those things which you have been given, and it won’t so easily go wandering off
to those things it wishes it had.
4. Guys don’t wear make up, curl their hair, and change
their outfit three times
Okay, so maybe this one isn’t a news flash to you all, but I
just had to drop a little “huh” from this new wife over here. Men take a
considerably less amount of time to get ready in the morning than we gals. Just
sayin’. The thing is, we’re
usually the ones packing the lunch boxes and tidying up the house before
heading out the door, too (a little credit here *wink*). I’ve found great benefit in thinking ahead (a work in progress :) )
and doing all that I can while Ben is at work, so as to show respect and
value for his time when he returns home by making him my priority, not the laundry, or the dishes, or the bathroom
floor.
5.
Respond to your husband . . . positively

Why do you think little rascal boys at church find slimy,
mucky, squishy toads and stick them in girls’ faces? In my vast experience
(take it from the girl whose brothers pin her in the corner, steal the keys to
her car, put a smelly shoe over her nose, and change her voicemail greeting
before resetting the passcode . . . don't worry, they actually are quite the gentlemen), guys seem to get this playful thrill out
of making a girl delightfully
irked. Girls who didn’t scream at wiggling snakes were boring, weren’t they, guys?
I’ve got yer number. You wanted to scare the one who had the very biggest
phobia of anything-reptile. After all, their screams were the loudest and most
exciting. On the flip (and possibly more mature) side, guys light up when a
girl responds to them. When I thank Benjamin for something, he feels
appreciated. He smiles at me and I wink back. He gives me a hug, and I try to
hug tighter. He comes up with an idea, and I build on to it. I respond to him.
I want him to know I’m interested in him and like his ideas. I make sure he
feels wanted by his wife.
6. Your spouse is the
awesomest playmate ever
I’m afraid since getting married, I have turned into much
more of a kid than I’ve ever been! Pillow fights, pizza and popcorn at
midnight, laughing and rambling on meaninglessly until wee hours in the
morning, climbing into British forts and discovering old dungeons . . . Ben and
I have a blast together. We are “heirs together in the GRACE of life” and joy
fills our home, not just because we love each other, but because we love the
Lord and He has brought us together to be a picture of Jesus and the church; to
rejoice always and love each other as ourselves. Don’t forget – when we do God’s
work, in God’s way, we will never lack God’s supply. He is the source of love
and joy and that’s why we want to keep Him the center of our marriage!
Happy six-month-aversary, Benjamin!!
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